Winter of our life

 

life1I do not know if you have read this anecdote before that I am sharing with you – the coming of winter in ones life. But, if you haven’t, read it slowly as instructed because sometime, somehow it will happen to you. Don’t bother looking for it for in due time it will find you.

I never thought that what I saw in old folks before will ever happen to me. But, as surely as night follows day, you will become what the old folks have been before you and the cycle goes on.

I realized where I was going when I saw my kids raise their own families and noticed grey hairs on their heads. If this is not a sign of where you were heading and not admitting that the changing of the guards has finally arrived, then you are simply fooling yourself.

Whether the winter coming upon you is harsh or not depends on how you prepare yourself for it.

I have my regrets, but that is past me now and I have to contend with the kind of winter it is going to be.

The beauty about it is that as winter starts appearing in your life you are still able to forewarn those following you that in order not to suffer the rigors of it, moderation is what life calls for. It is never too late.

Nothing I can do now at the creeping winter of my life, but just thankful that I can withstand it and be able to enjoy what remains of it.

Now that you know, it is always your choice to make the winter of your life harsh and miserable or mild and gratifying.

Life is that fleeting.

AND THEN IT IS WINTER . . .

I FIRST STARTED READING THIS EMAIL & WAS READING FAST UNTIL I REACHED THE THIRD SENTENCE. I STOPPED AND STARTED OVER READING SLOWER AND THINKING ABOUT EVERY WORD. THIS EMAIL IS VERY THOUGHT PROVOKING. MAKES YOU STOP AND THINK. READ SLOWLY!

You know. . . time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.

But, here it is… the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise…How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.

But, here it is…my friends are retired and getting grey…they move slower and I see an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me…but, I see the great change…Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant…but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we’d be. Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore… it’s mandatory! Cause if I don’t on my own free will… I just fall asleep where I sit!

And so…now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!! But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I’m not sure how long it will last…this I know, that when it’s over on this earth…its over. A new adventure will begin!

Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done…things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime.

So, if you’re not in your winter yet…let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don’t put things off too long!! Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life…so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember…and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!!

“Life” is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one.”

LIVE IT WELL!

ENJOY TODAY!

DO SOMETHING FUN!

BE HAPPY !

HAVE A GREAT DAY

Remember “It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.

LASTLY, CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING:

TODAY IS THE OLDEST YOU’VE EVER BEEN, YET THE YOUNGEST YOU’LL EVER BE SO – ENJOY THIS DAY WHILE IT LASTS.

~Your kids are becoming you……but your grandchildren are perfect!

~Going out is good.. Coming home is better!

~You forget names…. But it’s OK because other people forgot they even knew you!!!

~You realize you’re never going to be really good at anything…. especially golf.

~You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV blaring than in bed. It’s called “pre-sleep”.

~You miss the days when everything worked with just an “ON” and “OFF” switch..

~You tend to use more 4 letter words … “what?”…”when?”… ???

~Now that you can afford expensive jewelry, it’s not safe to wear it anywhere.

~You notice everything they sell in stores is “sleeveless”?!!!

~What used to be freckles are now liver spots.

~Everybody whispers.

~You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet…. 2 of which you will never wear.

~But Old is good in some things: Old Songs, Old movies, and best of all, OLD FRIENDS!!

Stay well, “OLD FRIEND!” Send this on to other “Old Friends” and let them laugh in AGREEMENT!!!

It’s Not What You Gather, But What You Scatter That Tells What Kind Of Life You Have Lived.

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” (Dr.Seuss)

The elderly, dementia and sex

 

I am writing about this because of a report made by Australian authors from the Australian Centre for Evidence-Based Aged Care that was published in the Journal of Medical Ethics, saying, that care centers deny elderly people the right to sex.

I would like to believe that this is well studied and, so, woe to the old people committed to a care center when he/she is still very much aware of his/her sex urges.

“The formation of relationships, physical intimacy and the expression of sexuality are a basic human right and a normal and healthy part of aging,” wrote the authors.

Yet, according to them, most facilities do not have formal policy guidelines or staff training aimed at allowing residents to continue being sexually active.

Perhaps, the problem lies in the fact that, normally, when an elderly is entrusted to a care center it is because he/she is perceived to be afflicted with dementia already, even if it is just normal forgetfulness or memory loss due to aging. Truth, however, is that memory loss is a common symptom of dementia. It is said that people with dementia have serious problems with two or more brain functions, such as memory and language.

But, more than anything, the primary concern for being transferred to a care center is so the fast aging person could have better and/or special care, which none of the relative can offer.

“Clearly there is a significant difference between the capabilities of a person with mild dementia and one with advanced or final-stage dementia and, therefore, a single approach to sexuality and ‘people with dementia’ is inappropriate,” the authors opined.

Indeed, it is cruelty for someone, who, even if afflicted with occasional memory lapses, but is still sexually active, to be lump with a group who has already forgotten what the thing is for, much less remember the pleasure of having sex.

For the elderly, therefore, dementia and sex is relative, as it is also a reality.

One would wish that care centers would consider the importance, nay, the necessity, of having a facility that offers gradual transition for the older people to enjoy sex, while they can, and until the time when both – the mind and the urge – have completely gone.